The Secret Lives of Work at Home Moms

It’s been seven years since I first began working at home. Back in 2006, I did not have children and working from home was much simpler. Today, I am a work-at-home mom (WAHM) of two beautiful, energetic daughters (ages five and one), who is also fortunate to be employed, full-time, by a major U.S. corporation.

Every day is a constant juggling act of work and family, personal and professional, kids and colleagues. At a moment’s notice, I often have to go from employee to mom … without missing a beat.


There are days that I live in yoga pants and my favorite bathrobe. Right now, my hair is in a scrunchie and my last decent hair cut was in August. I have been on mute during conference calls while changing a diaper.

I can’t even tell you the last time I got my nails done, took a real lunch break or went out for happy hour with co-workers. Sometimes I’m jealous of my husband for going to an office. My wardrobe is horrendous and sometimes I think I’m losing my ability to network professionally, interact with adults and socialize in person with people that don’t have kids.

Now, please do not mistake this post as whining! It’s most definitely not. Though do realize that working at home — eight to ten hours a day, five days a week, 50 weeks a year, for the past seven years — has been an acquired skill, a blessing, and harder to do than you might initially think.


Have a dedicated work space. Having a home office to “go to” helps me separate my work life from home life. At the end of the day, I shut the door and “leave” work. If you have a home office, that’s great! If not, I recommend finding a quiet place away from the main “kid area” in which you can focus.

Get some help with the kids. Work-at-home moms WORK. I’m not watching HGTV and eating bon-bons all day. There is no way that I could do my job without someone else here to help me. Whether it’s a live-in nanny, part-time sitter or daycare, research your options to see which solution fits best with your family, job and finances.

Keep regular work hours. As hard as it may seem, keeping a routine and office hours are important to successfully working from home. There are days when I login early or work late, but mostly, I efficiently work a jam-packed, standard workday and accomplish more (I think) than I would if I was in the office.

Turn off the phone. I receive a lot of calls throughout the day and into the evening. After work hours, instead of risking that the phone will interrupt dinner or bedtime, I simply turn off the ringer. This no-brainer tip has been a big help.


Take each day — heck, each minute — one at a time! Sometimes it’s hard not to get overwhelmed when you’re trying to balance the best of BOTH worlds. You may feel underappreciated (at home or work) and wonder if you’re making all the right choices.

If you know another WAHM, she’s probably feeling the same things you are … reach out to her, swap stories and let each other vent! Though easier said than done, remember to take some time for you. I’ve found that a little Zumba or a trip to Target (sans kids) can do wonders for the mind and body!

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Shannon Smedstad

Shannon Smedstad has nearly 20 years of recruitment, employer branding, and communications experience. Currently, she serves as the Principal Employer Brand Strategist at exaqueo. Previously, she held employer branding and recruiting leadership roles at CEB and GEICO. She’s a work at home mom raising two awesome girls who also enjoys reading, running, leading a Girl Scout troop, and her morning coffee. You can connect with Shannon on LinkedIn and Twitter.

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  1. cindy goodman says

    I have been working from home for about three years and it has been a major adjustment. It has its benefits, as you pointed out, but it also has its challenges. Like you, I sometimes feel jealous of my husband and my kids who leave home and return with enthusiasm.

    Lately, I’m trying much harder to get of the house when I can. I make lunch appointments or even work from Starbucks. It helps to feel like I’m part of the real world.

    Thanks for your blog post and giving your fellow WAHM a place to vent!

  2. Shannon Smedstad says

    Hi Cindy — Thanks for reading, sharing and venting! Take it one moment at a time, and let’s all remember to breathe. 🙂 Shannon

  3. Sarah Dillon says

    I am a lawyer and work the majority of my time from home. I work full time and have 6 year old twins. I specialise in employment law and most of my clients are based nationally so I can do most of my work by telephone and email. I have done this for 3 years.
    I do have meetings in London and occasional overnight stays away. To be honest I really enjoy them. It is a novelty now to put a suit on and go to meetings or have a whole night to myself in a hotel!

    Working from home has changed my life for the better, I can now cope with the house and kids. I am much less exhausted than when I had had a 2 hour commute and wasted an hour a day getting ready for work. When I started working from home I actually felt like I had woken up because the fog of exhaustion lifted.


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