Jessica Miller-Merrell | , , , , , ,| By
One of my biggest faults as a human being is also one of my greatest gifts. I can’t say no. Even if that means I’m constantly working to catch up, I know how to avoid chasing tail and I understand the art of saying no, I just have to do it. But still, I can’t say no. Well, until recently that is. My two year old daughter on the other hand, doesn’t seem to have the same problem with the art of saying no. I’ve counted her saying no five times already this morning.
The art of Saying No and Not Saying Yes to Everything
As this blog becomes more popular and my business takes off, I’m bombarded. Favors are asked in the form of time, expertise, or even the community I’ve worked hard to build. It’s exhausting. I’m a people pleaser by nature. Maybe you are too. I like to make people happy. It’s the reason I cleaned my room as a kid. I want people to like me. We all do. That’s the reason I’m the girl who can’t say no.
You are devaluing yourself, your time by saying yes to everything, and in my case, my business. When we fail to say no, what we are really saying is, “It’s okay. My expertise isn’t really that important.”
Failing to say no impacts me in other ways, I’m stretched for time. It’s hard enough being a new business owner who is also a mom but throw in 3-5 volunteer projects into the mix, and I’m beyond exhausted. There’s little time left for the person that’s most important: me.
From the Girl Who Can’t Say No to the Girl who’s Saying Yes to Everything Important
I’m saying yes to me. Yes to the gym. Yes to making healthy business and personal choices. And I am saying no to those that don’t.
Now, I’m picking my opportunities. I am saying no to those offers that aren’t a right fit for me. I am learning the art of saying no to those opportunities or experiences that aren’t mutually beneficial. My time matters and yours does too. I’ve went from the girl who can’t say no to the girl who knows ways of saying yes and saying no. I’ve found that while saying no is hard at first, it becomes easier as time goes by. It’s helped me further define the niche of my business and where I want it to go. Saying no is empowering, electric, and just good business.
How are you saying “no” today?