Sometimes, I can be obsessed. My children and close friends are laughing at this, because there really is no “sometimes” about it. But the truth of it is, I usually focus on two or three things to become, and then remain, obsessed about for a while. I have already openly admitted, in this forum, to my obsession with my mobile device. And there are a few other things that plague my mind constantly. I am ready to admit another here: I pluck my eyebrows, daily. I am okay with admitting this.
I think I can pin down the moment, twelve years ago, when I became obsessed with perfect eyebrows. My ex said to me, “Look at Faith Hill’s eyebrows. Aren’t they pretty? Look how they arch perfectly…” And that is all it took. I wanted Faith Hill’s eyebrows. I wanted my husband to think my eyebrows were pretty, too. Lame, I know. But it was what it was. I have become less obsessive than I used to be, mostly because I recognize the issue I have and I don’t want to have an issue. I can assure you, however, that I am not the only woman with an eyebrow obsession…
Ten years ago, when I was working as an executive recruiter, I was equally obsessed with leaving my desk spotless. At the end of my workday and before I would leave for home, I would remove any excess material/papers, stack and straighten every “search record” on my desk and prep for the morning, my blank call sheet for next day – a pen placed neatly on top and my computer completely shut down, no programs left running.
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Sadly, that perfect job (with the perfect desk) ended very messily. And that changed my perspective.
Ask anyone who knows me now, today? Trust me, I no longer have this obsession. My home office desk is a mess (I’m working on it – it has actually gotten better) and my desk at work? don’t even ask… I have relaxed considerably and though I am almost completely virtual, I still scribble notes on yellow pads and I have files folders for everything. I am working to de-mess my desk, but I don’t want to be obsessed like I once was, I want a healthy balance. The first step is admitting the problem, right?
And then, once you admit it, it is time to make a decision. Will I change the way I have been doing this? Or do I enjoy my life now and the mess isn’t hurting anyone, especially not me. You know what? Life is messy and my eyebrows are going to keep growing. I am not afraid of parameters, but I am also not afraid of not having parameters – I am afraid of having that fear. So when I am prompted, when it is time, my desk will be organized once more. For now, I will enjoy the peace and I will bless the mess.
Rayanne Thorn, @ray_anne is the North American Marketing Director for the online recruiting software company, Broadbean Technology. She is also a proud mother of four residing in Laguna Beach, California, and a contributor for Blogging4Jobs. Connect with her on LinkedIn.