I heard those words recently and was blown away. I listened in as someone I considered a friend told a professional colleague, “I taught Jessica everything she knows. I made her.” I stopped in my tracks and more accurately was “made” angry.
I Made You. We Made You. I Call Bullshit.
I have a problem with conversations or blanket statements like this. My personal and professional life has led me down this particular business path I am now. While there are certainly a number of individuals who influenced me along this journey with many lifting me up and supporting me along the way, I can’t think of one person “making me” other than my spouse or my parents who actually did. This man, my husband has been supporting me in the decision to start a blog and pursue my dreams as an entrepreneur since we first met 6 years ago.
It was a crowded event in a bar, and for all intents and purposes I didn’t want to make a scene especially since I had a few drinks and am looser with the lips. And until a couple weeks ago, I had filed that memory away but was reminded when I heard someone else say the exact thing about another friend, and I wondered . . .
Yes, there are those individuals who have been critical in this journey in life as well as business, but a statement like that is selfish and self-serving. I believe that we should be lifting people up, supporting our peers, and if someone succeeds we should be proud because they will lift you up in return.
Now, I may be a glass half full kind of girl, but this is my philosophy. I want to help real, authentic, and smart people who are fun and interesting too. It’s not only because I’m in a positon to do so but opportunities to help others offer a certain amount of leverage helping someone of influence.
My philosophy is to focus on those first with no real strategy or agenda to help myself. I can save that favor for another time. People are often surprised, that I want to get to know them first actually help them, learn their story first before calling in my own favor.
We Made You Now Available in Music Video
So no, thanks but you did not make me, but I thank you. Your one small sentence overheard in a bar with a delicious hot totty in my hand changed my life. It opened my eyes, and for that you make me grateful. So I guess make me in a way you did. While you are at it enjoy this music video from Eminem titled, We Made You.