Jessica Miller-Merrell | , , , , , ,| By
Quick to criticize and late to praise. I received my first negative blog comment in 2008 from someone who commented about about my poor spelling and lack of editing. They urged me to quit blogging altogether because I was unprofessional and lacked attention to detail. I was mortified. It was the first negative blog comment I had ever received. My initial reaction was to delete the comment or keep from publishing altogether. I pondered quickly editing my blog post, deleting the comment, and effectively sweeping my imperfection under the rug. I choose instead to post the comment; a decision today I’m very grateful for. In the days after the negative comment published, my community visited my blog post and came to my aid. The spelling police commenter had made two grammatical and spelling errors of his own in his 300 character comment. This detail was one that I had missed. It was then I first realized the power of the online community.
I had been vindicated.
I Kan Spel Gud. A Story About Blogging, Life & Living.
The most commonly mis-spelled words on the Internet are words and topics I have never considered blogging about. The top three (in case you are wondering) are Rod Stewart, Susan Boyle and pay-per-view.
I believe in the presenting yourself in the best possible manner. I talk about the importance of job seeker branding and personal marketing, but perfection is over-rated. So forgive me if I make mistakes. It’s part of who I am, and if I’m okay with that so I hope you are too.
In 2004, I left a physically and emotionally abusive marriage. My now ex was a recovering alcoholic for whom I made excuses for. I supported him as his personal punching bag and sugar momma. My career was on the fast track. And yet for nearly 7 years, I played it safe trying to fix a relationship that was dysfunctional and broken. When I walked away I promised myself I would never do it again. I spent 7 years playing it safe instead of living my life. Editing the draft of my life instead of pushing play and moving forward. And it will never happen again.
I will never apologize for publishing a post too soon. My blog like myself is a constant work in progress. I’m willing to take that chance. If publishing a post means a mis-spelled word, a grammatical mis-step, or a run in with the homophone police, I’ll take my chances.
A blog is a metaphor for life. Because life is about risk. Don’t spend your life waiting, editing, or on hold. I’m okay with a level of imperfection. It’s what makes me, me.